One main question that may go through your head is, "Is it my fault?"
There are always going to be events or situations that may lean more towards your fault, but do not let that discourage you or crush you even more, thinking that you could've changed the outcome by your actions. The truth is, there is no one to blame if you look at the big picture. Things either work out or they don't. That's life. Whether it seems like it happened because of your actions or your past partner's actions, you shouldn't put that fault on yourself or them. If things didn't work out, it would've happened eventually no matter what. Think of it as a gift from God: the sooner you get let off, the less attached you are.
The healthy thing to do is to accept the break-up as a mutual agreement, as if it was no one's fault specifically, no matter how heartbroken you are. You will find that more opportunities will cross your path and there will be more opportunities for happiness for yourself and your ex. You can't lie to yourself and say that you don't want nothing but happiness for the one you love, so overall, this is what's best for the both of you. If you can tell yourself that and believe it, you're that much closer to healing your broken heart. Being selfish in love will get you nowhere.
Kristin, I appreciate your very positive message of accepting what has happened and moving on to something better!
ReplyDeleteThis is a great way to look at a break-up! There are always different side and opinions so looking at the split as a mutual decision is extremely healthy and can keep someone from dwelling too much on the event.
ReplyDelete"That's Life" is one of my all time favorite quotes! It's also a song by Frank Sinatra :)
ReplyDeleteI think you have a good platform to reach all people who are in relationships, but even more so young girls or women in general. You are giving helpful advice sharing your testimonials about situations which could be very reassuring to others.
ReplyDeleteI think you're on to a great start! Your topic is something many people struggle with and to be able to give people some guidance is great of you!
ReplyDeleteI love when you said "Things either work out or they don't. That's life. " That is something I truly learned! When you start to see things will not work out, you will no longer waste so much time and energy into it.
ReplyDeleteThey say there are two things that we as humans do psychologically when we are looking at a problem. We can either change the thing that is the problem or change our mood or opinion about the thing that is giving us problems. It is hard for us to not find out why things happen and so we place the blame on things. Most people don't understand that it is impossible to place the blame on one particular thing because there are so many variables. I don't know if humans will ever be able to stop misappropriating blame and except that things either work out or they don't. I know its hard for me to except that. I hope that maybe you can change my mind a little on the matter.
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